“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” – Dr. Seuss, The Lorax
Learning how to advocate for aging parents isn’t always easy; but advocating for those you love is perhaps one of the greatest honors – and responsibilities – you’ll have as a family caregiver. It means fully comprehending the other person’s wishes and needs, and communicating them to those who can help ensure they are fulfilled.
If the role seems daunting and perhaps more than you feel equipped to carry out, or if you are just now having to learn how to advocate for ageing parents, there are several steps you can take to strengthen the skills you’ll need to be most effective.
Observe. It may seem to go without saying, but with so many things vying for your attention, it can be easy to pay less attention than needed to subtle shifts in a senior’s condition, behaviors, or mood. It’s helpful to first make sure your own self-care needs are met so you’re sharp and well-rested. Then implement a system to take and share notes with any other family members or friends who are in close contact with the senior to be sure to pick up on any changes.
Communicate. Effective communication with medical, legal, or financial experts is crucial to effectively advocating for a senior. Because these professionals are so busy, keep your communication style concise, clear, and to the point. Bring notes so you’re sure to cover all the bases. Remain respectful, and bear in mind that listening is as vital to good communication as speaking. And, thank the professional for hearing you out and for their help in coming to the best resolution.
Learn. Continue to educate yourself on the particular health condition(s) the senior is battling, along with ageing in general, and legal/financial matters. As you learn more, it’s likely that additional questions will arise. If you can’t get the answers you need from one professional, try another trusted source until you have the understanding you need.
Be tenacious. Advocating for a senior family member effectively has been described as serving as “chief bulldog.” It means giving it your all, finding creative solutions to difficult problems, always with the senior’s best interests at heart. Be prepared for frustrations to arise, and to have to fight for what your family member needs!
Most importantly, keep a positive mindset, and surround yourself with a strong system of support, including the ageing care team at Amy’s Helping Hands. As the leading provider of senior care in Windsor, Ontario and the surrounding areas, we’re here to partner with you to ensure the very best quality of life for a senior you love. We also provide you with opportunities to step away from your caregiving role to refresh and recharge – something vitally important for both your older family member and yourself.
Call us at 519-915-4370 any time and let us know how we can help! We offer an in-home consultation and creation of a customized plan of care that will help ensure all of your care bases are covered!
